The Pain of Discipline

Discipline is a verb defined as to train someone to obey rules and correct disobedience. It is something a person does to obtain success. Michael Jordan would not be the greatest basketball player of all time if he did not undergo great discipline.

If you wanted to be good at something, you train and discipline yourself. If you wanted to be promoted at work you discipline yourself by coming to work early and finish all the tasks assigned to you. If you wanted to follow Christ, you discipline yourself by studying his word and living a Christ-like life. If you want your kids to be successful, YOU DISCIPLINE THEM.

But many hated it. I for one doesn’t like to discipline myself by exercising regularly and eating proper diet. I hated it more than I hate Math. It is not easy to wake up early, pick up the running shoes and get some sweat. But I know I will benefit from it. If I take care of my body, I will glorify God. But it’s just not easy and I am stubborn and lazy.


The opposite of discipline is SPOILING. It is our human nature to skip the hard parts if you can. Who likes to experience hardships anyway? It makes us feel better if we don’t hear our toddlers cry and whine if we didn’t get them that expensive toy in the mall or if we don’t see our teenagers rant on Facebook because daddy did not get her an iPhone 6 plus.

Spoiling isn’t about showing how much we love our kids. It is actually a selfish act and the key in ruining your child’s life. If you love your child, you would discipline them even if it hurts them.

Still not convinced? Here are some attitudes SPOILING produces over time:

  • Kids become selfish and self-centered
  • They become a burden to parents
  • They are disrespectful
  • They don’t value family but only remembers them when they need something
  • They don’t have friends
  • They are insecure
  • They are quarrelsome
  • They are stubborn and don’t accept cri  ticism
  • They are disobedient
  • They lack people skills
  • They are impatient
  • They are poor in spirit
  • They are lazy
  • They are irresponsible


If your kid has all these qualities, do you think they will succeed in life? As a parent, do you feel complete and fulfilled? The worst part is, they will pass this on to generations and generations.

Now lets take a look at what DISCIPLINE produces in the life of our kids:

  • An abundant life, full of love, peace and eternal blessing

When you are at your death bed, nothing feels better than knowing that your kids will live a peaceful life. I don’t know about you but that’s what I wanted.

How can I discipline? Is it too late if I start now?

The biggest mistake we made as parents to our 5-year old daughter is that we introduced discipline just now. It was so hard to reset her button. I cannot blame anyone but us. God entrusted us with the life of our kids and it is our duty to train them well.

But we don’t lose hope. Nothing is impossible. We hold on to the promise that when you train up a child, they will never get lost.


And if you are lucky and just starting a family, discipline them as early as possible. Even when they are still a baby. Talk to them about it, do things in repetition so their body will be trained.

Discipline is not just for kids, it’s more of for us, parents. We need to discipline ourselves to be able to do the same for others. Remember that our kids reflect us. If obedience, respect, love and peace doesn’t show in our lives, stop kidding yourself and start living such life.

Enough of my words and let’s look at some Bible verses that can motivate us to discipline our kids.

Proverbs 3:11-12
My son, do not despise the Lord’s discipline, and do not resent his rebuke, because the Lord disciplines those he loves, as a father the son he delights in.

Proverbs 10:17
Whoever heeds discipline shows the way to life, but whoever ignores correction leads others astray.

Proverbs 19:18
Discipline your children, for in that there is hope; do not be a willing party to their death.

Job 5:17-18
“Blessed is the one whom God corrects; so do not despise the discipline of the Almighty.For he wounds, but he also binds up; he injures, but his hands also heal.”

Proverbs 13:24
Whoever spares the rod hates their children, but the one who loves their children is careful to discipline them.

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