Do you ever feel like a day is never enough? Perhaps with work, with school, with the person you love the most, or simply with all your household chores. I do.
The problem is not the time—it’s us. People do so much things in one go that they forget to pause for a while and look around. We are always in a hurry to finish everything and by the end of the day we feel like what we did for the last 15 hours is still not enough.
I appeal to you, stay-at-home parents like me who juggle chores in between nursing, teaching, trying to scream at your son when he’s about to fall off the stairs. Again, it is not easy but it is possible to survive a day.
My husband would always ask me how do I do it. Frankly speaking, sometimes I also wonder. There are no days in a week where I don’t cry and tell myself that I can’t do this anymore. With a toddler in tow, I have mastered cooking, eating, doing the laundry, and brushing my teeth with just one hand.
I am a bit of an obsessive compulsive mom. I want everything to be in order and the idea of how much germs a door knob accumulates make me want to empty a whole can of Lysol on it. I know, I know, I can be overly dramatic but I am the kind of person who will not call it a night unless I feel (yes, feel, not know) that our floor is squeaky clean. It haunts me, likewise, exhausts me.
We can all agree that when we get oh so tired we burst in anger and there is nothing good that will ever come out of our mouths. I struggle with this and it hurts me that most of the time I take it out on Mike and my daughter.
Stop. Don’t think ahead too much. Don’t overdo things. Think of today, right now and what can be done for tomorrow can wait.
“God is within her, she will not fall; God will help her at break of day.” Psalm 46:5
I have learned in the last couple of months the power of PLANNING. I plan my weekly chores until it becomes a habit and I don’t do heavy ones all at the same day. On chores that I have to spend most time, I do when Mike is around to keep the kids away.
It also helps to have a mentality of CLEAN AS YOU GO. One way of keeping our house neat is to actually clean while you’re there and while you still see the mess. Every after meal we make sure that all dishes are washed, the table has been wiped and the floor is mopped. We leave no trace.
Of course I don’t do all this by myself. I make sure that all the members of my household get the memo—even the clingy toddler. Whenever the kids move from one room to another, they’ve already formed the habit of putting away all their toys prior.
But I won’t lie. This isn’t our usual picturesque situation. There are days where no one wants to cooperate or I am extremely worn out. What’s left to do is to LET DOWN YOUR GUARDS. I can’t be perfect and I don’t want to be perfect. I want to be sane, I want to be whole. I can never take full control of what’s going to happen in a day. The more I fight God’s plan for me that day, the more I become unproductive.
Take time to stop, reschedule, and pray on stressful days. As I always tell my husband whenever he whines about getting overwhelmed with work: “work never ends, there’s still tomorrow.” It is very important to know when to surrender with this world’s pressure. Eliminate the things that will make you produce bad fruits.
It’s okay if there are days that you don’t feel like cleaning. Days where you buy take out food instead of cooking—happens to me all the time. And if you are a homeschooling parent too, you’d probably skip a day (although learning does not stop) when everything feels heavy.
“Do not love the world or anything in the world. If anyone loves the world, love for the Father is not in them.” 1 John 2:15
Yes, it’s alright not to give in to the society and how they expect us to be like The Stepford Wives. We are the epitome of how a real mother does her day and all our actions are in accordance to glorifying the Lord. The moment we give our entire lives for the sake of our husband and kids is the moment we bring to life God’s plan.
So take it easy, don’t be in constant competition with the world. Don’t ever exhaust yourself because of pressure. It’s always better to have a good night’s sleep with a heart that is whole more than anything else.
Pray and continue to lift everything to God for He gives us rest.